Raising the Bar in Parenting

On Sundays, we have been in a sermon series about the Gold Standard and raising the bar in different areas of our lives. (Holiness, Marriage, Relationships, and Parenting) This Sunday morning, I shared about expectations and standards we can use in raising our kids and grandkids. If you read through these lists, you will find they are not your common standards that have been set.

Many people live their life hoping their kids will get a good education, excel at sports or some other extracurricular activity, and have a good job. While those are good things, it is a low bar to be set. You can have a great athlete who is arrogant or immoral. When they are done playing sports or done with their education, what do you have then? Are they good people? Can you be proud of the way they live and the decisions they make?

The greatest goal for our children should be their relationship with Jesus Christ. Check out these lists and see if any of these resonate with you. You can download the PDF Version here.


The Standard I Am Raising For My Kids by Danny Cheney

  • I want my kids to love Jesus and Serve Him.
  • I want my kids to be responsible and be a positive influence on others.
  • I want my kids to live moral lives.
  • I want my kids to be known for their honesty, even if it hurts.
  • I want my kids to love other people and respect those in authority.
  • I want my kids to have a love for the Word of God.
  • I want my kids to learn to pray and know that they can take anything to their loving Heavenly Faither.
  • When my kids are raised, I want them to choose, on their own, to follow Jesus and go to church for the rest of their lives.

The Noticer Returns by Andy Andrews listed these things for the Gold Standard for our kids.

  • To be divinely guided
  • To possess great wisdom, understanding, common sense
  • To have a grateful spirit
  • To have a joyful spirit
  • To be responsible
  • To be a person of good morals, character
  • To have a great and abiding faith
  • To be humble
  • To be hardworking
  • To be honest
  • To have respect for authority
  • To have servant’s heart
  • To accept the role of a leader

What we should teach our kids by Landon Coleman:               (http://www.landoncoleman.com)

  • How to support their church through “tithing.”
  • The importance of making eye contact and speaking clearly.
  • How to practice spiritual disciplines.
  • The importance of taking care of your possessions.
  • How to read and enjoy books.
  • The importance of saying “thank you.”
  • How to apologize and how to forgive.
  • The reality that sin always has consequences.
  • How to be a good friend, especially to the friendless.
  • The supreme value of knowing Jesus and being known by Jesus.

Let’s raise the bar in leading our kids.



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