I have read many marriage books, yet I am still learning how to be a better husband. Most books tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. Books that try to fix marriages, more like a self-help course. Love and War is a different type of marriage book. John and Stasi Eldredge share from their personal journey to “stay” married. The book begins by relating with most married couples of how we have so many expectations only to find ourselves disappointed because it was more difficult than we thought. The authors talk extensively about how we need to count the cost of marriage before we say I do and to consider the baggage that we carry into the marriage. They deal with the issues of self-esteem, past hurts, misdirected goals and much more.
They talk about the couple that seems happy in public but are falling apart inside. The Eldredge’s give hope to every couple with their honest insight and by sharing from their own failures. I have decided that Love and War will be required reading for every couple I counsel before and after marriage. If you are struggling through marriage, Love and War is for you.
What the Eldredge bestsellers Wild at Heart did for men, and Captivating did for women, LOVE & WAR will do for married couples everywhere. John and Stasi Eldredge have contributed the quintessential works on Christian spirituality through the experience of men and the experience of women and now they turn their focus to the incredible dynamic between those two forces.
With refreshing openness that will grab readers from the first page, the Eldredges candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they’ve gained from the challenges they faced. Each talks independently to the reader about what they’ve learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives that has been absent from all previous books on this topic.
They begin LOVE & WAR with an obvious but necessary acknowledgement: Marriage is fabulously hard. They advise that the sooner we get the shame and confusion off our backs, the sooner we’ll find our way through.
LOVE & WAR shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. Walking alongside John and Stasi Eldredge, every couple can discover how their individual journeys are growing into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their own.
This was book was provided for review by WaterBrook Multnomah.